My husband and I have three children. Our eldest is 4, our second is 2.5yrs old, and our youngest just turned 1 recently.
Jet is a very accomplished businessman and entrepreneur. I help him in business while also being a full-time mom to our kids. I also homeschool.
Staying home 24/7 because of Covid proves to be a challenge because once helpers leave, we don’t let them come back due to the risk of contracting the Covid virus. Before covid, we had complete help.. but now, we currently have one helper and one nanny for our youngest. Even with them, I still have to help take care of the home. (I believe having the means to hire helpers is a blessing. I also believe their responsibility is to HELP.. and yes, I still help our helpers with chores around the house)
I get overwhelmed and that is completely normal. When it does happen, I take a moment to be still, and I pray. I try not to be overly anxious anymore.
I do my best to manage my outlook, and I’d like to share what I have applied which could help you avoid getting overwhelmed too:
Don’t spread yourself too thinly. Wisely choose where you position yourself.
Narrow down your responsibilities to what is essential to your personal situation. Take into consideration your time and health. Don’t take-on 10 jobs if it means you sacrifice your physical, mental, and emotional health.
Ask for help when you need it.
I gave up 3 major business responsibilities. I now handle what I can and it has been good for me so far.
Establish a Routine.
Plan your week ahead and designate days and timeslots for certain things. Keeping a semblance of organization is key to “keeping it together” for me.
My kids are still at ages where they need full time and attention. Need an Example? my sons would climb up and down the stairs if they could have their way.
So, if you don’t have one established yet, it is very good to have a routine because it allows you to manage your time better. You may boost productive time with a routine. It can help you manage your kid/s better as well.
I designate weekday mornings for homeschooling.
Everyday, while my kids sleep, I do work related tasks. Since I have a routine, I can block off the 2pm-4pm & 10pm-12am timeslots for work. I stay up as late as 2am if needed. My kids get up everyday at 7:30am and we run like clockwork from there.
On weekends I give rewards and designate these days as relaxed days to let my kids play however they want. I let them explore new interests also. I still supervise all the time of course.
Don’t compare yourselves to others.
This is tricky because with social media, nowadays it is so easy to compare. I’ve had my share of anxieties because I felt I wasn’t doing good enough.
Comparing yourself to others is not healthy. It is toxic.
There is a famous quote which says life is not a sprint, but a marathon. Everyone can go at their own pace, what matters is you finish well.
If there was ever a perfect time to set boundaries, I would say it to be NOW. We’re all stuck at home, we all have to mind our own business.
Take this time to really define what you want for yourself, for your family.. and work towards it.
Setting boundaries can be for both personal and career life.
Take rest when you need it.
Recharge and rest. Don’t let busyness consume you. Practice self care.
Talk to friends, schedule zoom dates with your momgroup.
Leave the kids to watch an hour of TV if you need to take a break.
Order in some food (and reheat it at 150 degrees for 30mins as a health safety precaution of course) if you don’t want to prepare food because you are tired from a long day.
Try to get some quality sleep every night.
If you allow yourself to recharge and rest, it will also boost productivity for your whole family.
Hoping all you mommas have an awesome week ahead! Remember, when the going gets tough, don’t be discouraged. We are stronger than we think. Don’t breakdown and give up. Your family needs you.